A gay etiquette guide to Japan’s Onsen

Japanese onsen (hot springs) are a deeply ingrained part of Japanese culture, valued for relaxation, socializing, and their healing mineral properties. Onsens are found across Japan, often surrounded by natural beauty, and can be either traditional outdoor baths or modern, indoor facilities. Here’s a look at the history and what to expect, particularly for gay travelers.

History and Cultural Significance

The use of hot springs in Japan dates back over 1,000 years, with records showing samurai, monks, and nobles using onsens to heal and rejuvenate. Many onsens are considered sacred due to Japan's connection between nature and spirituality, with the mineral-rich waters believed to provide healing benefits for the skin, muscles, and general health. Onsens remain highly respected spaces for relaxation and are a beloved tradition. They are certainly not cruising areas!

Experience and Etiquette

Onsens follow specific etiquette to maintain a peaceful and clean environment. Key customs include:

• Nudity: Bathing suits are generally not allowed, so everyone enters the water nude: even tourists.

• Showering First: Bathers must thoroughly wash before entering the communal baths to keep the water clean.

• Quiet Atmosphere: Onsens are calm, quiet spaces, and talking is kept to a minimum to maintain the relaxing atmosphere.

Onsens are typically separated by gender, though there are mixed-gender ones. Tattoos, still associated with the yakuza (Japanese organized crime), are often prohibited, though some onsens are becoming more lenient or provide cover-ups.

Considerations for Gay Travelers

For gay travelers, it’s important to keep in mind that onsens are communal spaces with an emphasis on tranquility, respect, and discretion. While being gay is not illegal in Japan, public discussions of sexuality are generally private, and any romantic or sexual advances in an onsen would be viewed as highly inappropriate.

For those seeking LGBTQ+-friendly options, some areas, particularly Tokyo and Osaka, offer gay-friendly onsens or private baths, where privacy is ensured, and couples can relax together. Private onsen rooms, available at many ryokans (traditional inns), can be a good choice for gay couples wanting a more relaxed experience.

Overall, Japanese onsens provide a unique experience steeped in tradition and relaxation. Understanding and following the local etiquette is key to enjoying these spaces respectfully and comfortably.